Children Bedwetting, any hope?

Bedwetting occurs at night, often with children who have little or no trouble controlling their bladder during the day. The older children are less likely to wet the bed.

 

Bedwetting creates anxiety for the entire family.  This makes parents to be frustrated and tired by the extra laundry, drying mattresses, and time set aside in reassurances that follow each incident of bedwetting.

 

One may ask, what are the basic causes of bedwetting? Few causes of bedwetting include ailments such as;

• urinary tract infections,
• allergies,
• diabetes,
• cell anemia,
• sleep disorders
• Having taken excess prior to going to bed.

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Although, researchers have found that psychological reasons such as stress, upset, and trauma often contribute to bedwetting.

 

Teenagers who wet the bed often suffer from low self-esteem, withdrawal, stress, fear, and other problems.  These children may suffer from insomnia because they fear or are ashamed of what happens while they are asleep.

 

Many parents wonder whether they should search for help for bedwetting.  After all, despite the problems of bedwetting, many doctors still recommend patience and time as the best way to resolve the problem, as many children overcome it with little or no extra help.

 

 

Many years ago, it was thought that bedwetting children were simply poorly taught, were developmentally delayed (or otherwise “abnormal”) or just needed more discipline.

 

Endeavor to involve your child when seeking the solution. When you approach a child with a way to resolve bedwetting, you can often ensure a better reception by approaching the subject in a sensitive and informative way. Help the child to clean up, tidy up the pillows or fold the sheets. Ensure you involve such child in the clean up exercise. In doing this, you are indirectly making them to know bedwetting is not an ideal situation. In addition, this can make the child feel less babyish and hopeless.

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Do not make cleaning up exercise look like a punishment. It is important not to discipline your child for wetting the bed.  This method not only does not work, but the stress of the discipline may make the problem worse.  No child wants to wet the bed after, knowing full well that someone can stay “dry” for the night.

The child who has a hard time not wetting the bed needs sympathy and help, not discipline. If you adopt punishment methods, you will get the following results;

 

• The child become ashamed, Hence, low esteem

 

• Become upset with their regular life, thereby turning them towards depression.

 

• Sudden and big changes in appetite (eats a lot less or far more)

 

• Fearful or withdrawn with others

 

• Does not show interest in regular activities

 

• Does not spend time with others

 

• Cries and gets angry or is very quiet

 

• Mood swings

 

• Have problem of sleeplessness

 

• Loss of control of bladder during the day

 

• Reduced performance in school.

 

If you notice these problems, seek more aggressive treatment for the bedwetting and visit a counselor or doctor to help your child deal with the secondary problems caused by bedwetting.

 

You have to be very sure it is not a medication that is causing the problem. If your child is taking any medications that cause extreme drowsiness or an urgent need to urinate, the medications may be causing bed wetting.  Medications that make your child very tired may simply not allow such child to wake up and to go to the bathroom.

 

 

Techniques employed in stopping bedwetting

 

Earlier bedtime

Children, who are tired, usually have a hard time waking up to empty their full bladder.  If your child gets the sleep he or she needs, they will not be so overtired not to be able to wake up.

 

Assure your child that the problem is not forever

 

If your child seems to be doing better, remind him or her again that most people overcome bedwetting with time and you will notice that their situation seems to be improving itself.

 

 

 

Night lifting

Night lifting is a technique that requires the parent to wake up the child in the night.  Most children lose control of their bladder at night especially if the child follows the same routine of sleeping all through and wet the bed each day.  If you can identify when each accident occurs, say every 30 minutes, 1 hour? You can set your alarm before this time, so as to wake your child up, and lead them to the bathroom.

 

You can also try waking your child up twice a night.  In most cases, this helps the child wake up dry in the morning. Then use this opportunity to encourages the child to keep trying to wake up before they are woken up.  However, children may resist waking up in the night, especially if they are tired.

 

 

Urination control exercise

Some doctors are of the opinion that helping the child control urination, also helps them control the muscle that holds back or releases urine.  This exercise is often used in conjunction with the bladder control exercise and is completely safe.

 

How can this be done?

1. When your child urinates, have your child stop urinating “mid-stream”

 

2. Have your child start-stop three times.

 

3. Repeat the process during each bathroom visit.

 

The idea is that the child will control the bladder more effectively during the day, causing the control to be present at night as well.

 

In general, these exercises work best with children over the age of six years and those who are willing to work hard to control their bladder.

 

 

 

Avoid excess liquid before going to bed

It is important to keep your child hydrated.  Drinking enough water helps the body function properly and helps keep the kidneys healthy.  However, encourage your child to drink most of the water earlier in the day so that less water is drunk in an hour or two before bedtime. This can help ensure that the body does not produce much urine that will agitate wetting the bed at night.

 

It is important to note that some fluids cause more wetting of bed problems than the others.  While your child is trying to overcome bedwetting, it is often best to stick to water.  Drinks like dark teas, and coffee all contain caffeine that irritates the bladder. Hence, may increase the urgency to urinate more habitually.  For teenagers, alcohol may also affect bedwetting, as the need to urinate is increased.

 

Take for instance, apple juice also seems to cause increased urine in some children, due to the two substances, patulin and gallic acid, that it contains.  Encourage your child to eat apples during the day, but do not serve apple juice prior to bed time.

 

 

Wake up alarm

A wake up alarm emits noise as at time set.  It will wake your child up, so as to visit the bathroom even if your child is a very heavy sleeper. The alarm can wake up the rest of the household, so that you can wake your child up.  The essence of this device is to wake up the child several times. With this device, some improvement will be noticed.

 

 

 

Be cautious of medicating your child

Do not use drugs do not cure this problem in the first instance because some other options may be available. Parents should think carefully and consider all the risks and options before choosing medication as these drugs also carry some side effects.  Medication may be useful for children who suffer excessively from the bedwetting. But ensure you consult a doctor before embarking on such action.

You should also remember that children who take medication for bedwetting are much likely to revert to bedwetting once the medication has discontinued.

 

 

 

Get mattress liners or protectors

These products are placed under the bed sheets to keep the child’s mattress free from urine and its stains, thereby avoiding the smell of urine that make your child uncomfortable.

 

You spent money buying the mattress so you ensure its protected, as cleanup may be stressful and time consuming. Simultaneously, ensures that smell of urine doesn’t linger in the mattress and make your child uncomfortable.

 

Without liners or protector, each time the child wets the bed, the mattress will undergo drying in the sun during the day. The situation may become worse during the rainy season when you experience limited sunshine. Liners make life easier for everyone in your family

Ensure that the liner cover the mattress firmly as to prevent leaks  which happens if your child is a restless sleeper (the type that tosses and turns a lot during sleep).

 

 

You must be patient

Yes, this is a difficult advice to follow. You must be patient with a child that wet the bed as the result cannot be achieved in just one day. In view of the fact that bedwetting often corrects itself in part or in full with time, a combination of any other option and patience is often necessary in order to achieve success.

 

There are no “instant” resolutions for bedwetting, and trying many remedies in rapid succession is not likely to work.  In fact, instead of solving the problem, it will frustrate you.

 

 

 

Love your child

Teenagers who wet the bed often experience great disturbance of emotions.  Hence, they need your love more than ever. Being affectionate and loving will help reassure the child.  This can help give your child the strength to get over the bedwetting problems as soon as possible.

 

If you have been short-tempered to your child in the recent past, make him or her know you love him or her. And when the child absorb this message, he or she will do everything possible to please you buy making sure any option applied to stopping bedwetting works.

Your Immune System: a bio-powered Fighting Machine

 

 Our bodies are built with the immune system to fight off infection and disease.

It is stronger than any antioxidant or antibiotic out there. Hence, we must do every to protect our immune system with good nutritional foods, clean environment, and better lifestyles.

Don’t think you are safe just because you wash your hands a few times a day. Bacterial and viral agents can enter the body many different means.

 

Let’s have a look at some examples that illustrate steps of what happens when disease-causing bacteria enter your body.

 

1.    Bacteria or viral organisms enter your body through touch, sneezes, physical contact or through other mechanisms. Keep in mind if someone coughs, their phlegm may spread over 350 feet, meaning whatever illness they have will shower the people around them unless they cover their mouths. That is why it is so important to close your mouth and cover your mouth if you have to cough or sneeze.

 

2.    Your body’s immune system receives a signal from your brain that shouts out ‘Time to make white blood cells!” White blood cells are the form of cells in your body that react to infection. Their job is to help create cells that fight diseases whether they are viral or bacterial in nature.

 

 

3.    If your immune system is as strong as it can be, your body will send enough antibodies to fight any attack, no matter how severe. This doesn’t mean you won’t get sick, it means your body will do everything it can to keep you healthy. If you fall sick, your chances of recovery from illness are high if the immune system has been maintained from the past.

 

4.    It may take you a few days to get well, but most people easily recover from minor infections or viruses. It may take some days for an average cold or bacterial infection. Immuno-compromised patients may take their body much longer to overcome something even as simple as the common cold.

 

Most people do not have a fine-tuned immune system. If you had it, you probably wouldn’t need to read this piece. Information like this helps you “fine tune” your immune system so you have the best chances of reducing the length and preventing an ill health simultaneously. Now that you understand how the immune system works, it is necessary you are aware of some major factors that influence your immune system or make it function less optimally than it ought to.

 

 

Factors That Influence Your Immune System

Your immune system may be compromised in several ways, which are also reasons your body may not jump to attack an infection or disease the way it ought to.

 

That you engage in one or two of these habits today without issues, doesn’t mean your immune system is happy. The speed at which people fall ill differs from person to person, depending on the level of their immune system. Here are some common factors that negatively influence the immune system.

 

    Excessive fast food and saturated fat in your diet: Fat can clog your arteries, thereby narrowing the path of blood flow. Take note that the heart will continue to pump blood at its normal rate for you to be alive. As these happen, the heart now requires a higher pressure to continue its normal process. Hence the victim experiences what is known as high blood pressure. This lifestyle over time will result in drastic weight gain due to increase in total body fat accumulating in the body. Thereby bringing about life-threatening diseases such as stroke, etc.

 

    Irregular exercise: When you don’t exercise your body, or you overdo it, you may become ill rather than prevent illness. Sometimes more is better; however, more is not better if you exercise to the point where you over train your muscles and body. You need to give your body a break, especially between strength training sessions, so you are able to fight against the disease. Here, Moderation should be the watchword.

 

    Stress: This sends levels of cortisol (a stress hormone) through the roof, which can result in general dissatisfaction or illness. Stress is a killer, which can lead to heart attacks, anger, depression, high blood pressure, and aggression, and many other disorders. The less stressed you are exposed to, the better your body will be at fighting off diseases.

 

    Insomnia: Sleeplessness or insufficient sleep changes the hormonal levels in your body. This situation inspires you to eat more and increases your weakness to common colds or infections. You may gain weight, which also puts you at risk for diseases such as II diabetes. At this point, it must be noted that if you sleep too much, you may have a health problem. (Consult with your doctor). Most people do well when they sleep 6-8 hours each day.

 

    Poor diet: This factor should have come first, but I decide to use it, to sum up, the points so you will have enough time to ponder on it. A balanced diet is not that too expensive, compare to all the junk foods around. Also, you need to eat too much (This actually slows down your metabolism, meaning you will gain weight even if you eat fewer portions than you have in the past), or totally deprive yourself of food to fight disease (your body goes into starvation mode). Use a practical approach, one that encourages moderation in our eating habit.

 

 

Just as you put the engine oil in your car to prevent heating and wearing away of the metal, so you have to care for your body to be able to fight off illness.

One thing you must invest in, however, is your health. When your health is good, you feel good. When you feel good, you can do almost anything your desires.

 

Friendship: a key to Divorce Prevention

 

Lots of marriages these days are faced with the critical challenges such as spouses holding an adulterous affair, battling and quarrelling nearly every day, inability to reconcile emotional and mental differences, third party interference in the marriage, a yearn for the return of good old days relationship or even a crave to stop an impending divorce.

I refer to all these as critical challenges because they are capable of jeopardizing our wellbeing if not checked.

If you find yourself in the above states of affairs identified, this piece will be beneficial and valuable to you, regardless how stubborn the opposition, how far your spouse might be from you, how hopeless your state of affairs seem.

 

Friendship has been noticed to be a tried, true and proven technique that can positively influence your marriage, once employed.

In marriage, friendship is forever. Even if we move out of town or adopt residence abroad, we preserve our friendships. We surely don’t divorce our friends just because of a misinterpretation, so if we addressed our spouse as a dear friend, we likely won’t ever require a divorce lawyer and carry out the separation exercise of divorce.

 

Have this in mind

Since love is less lasting and friendship more long-lasting, effort must be made to make our spouse not only a lover or partner, but a friend. Friendship is an observable manifestation of emotional maturity. Marriage is a duty larger than life and may be a source of challenges or sound joy. Only if we turn those challenges and joy into building blocks for a lasting friendship may we say that we have taken the firm path to a union made in heaven.

 

If there is true friendship between husband and wife, the marriage will not end up on the rocks. Rather, it becomes a rock-hard marriage where no person or condition may put it asunder.

Friendship in a union means that the union will be significant with memories of laughter and humour, for we picked those friends who made us laugh the most. Friendship likewise means open and honest communication; a no holds barred type of coupling where our comfort level with our spouse goes beyond a hundred percent, guaranteed that what we state and how we say it won’t be labelled or taken in a damaging light.

 

The friendship between couples returns wholesome feelings of goodwill and faithfulness. Our spouse – our friend – has our concerns at heart, won’t cheat on us and will be our most steadfast supporter. Friendship likewise makes spouse stronger; this durability of friendship is strengthened by the pleasure of shared history of nostalgia and designs for the future.

Romance is a great thing, and we may utilize heaps of it when our relationships get rough. But some people think that romance may be a roadblock to friendship. How come? Romance blots out the darker side of our being – our concerns, fear, anxieties, and insecurities. Yet, it’s those fears, anxieties, and insecurities that by nature draw us to our friend.

 

Familiarity due to romance does not spawn contempt. It spawns content. A sense of contentment corresponds with satisfaction, warmth, and firm assurance. Partaking in a life together in love and friendship makes for a book that’s deeper and denser in shared histories, in content.

If you were to ask a content bachelor and a jubilantly married man to each author their stories, you will get a favourable narration from both.

The single individual’s position would, however, be I, me and myself – and perhaps a string of blind dates and Saturday nights alone. But the husband will discuss “us”, of mutual interests – a story decidedly made richer as there are two stories, not one.

 

Much as it sounds awfully unfashionable, (some people say the modern day marriage is like a contract, which can be terminated as at when due) marriage is a commitment, and people have to make every attempt not to degrade that commitment in any way.

Remaining in married is a lifelong, missionary-like enterprise. It calls for guts. It calls for nerves of steel to make a union work. A sense of humour and a humbler degree of egotism may sustain us in the field of marriage.

The obstructions will be many, and there will be spots where we’ll question our saneness, uncertain if we truly have to hang on.

It will be a massive effort to stay attracted to the same qualities that pulled you to your spouse on the first day you got together. Your spouse is yet the same individual you fell in love with, he or she hasn’t altered his or her soul or being.

 

Finally, there is just one way to divorce, but a thousand ways to save your union, which route will you choose? Are you going to quit or accept one more hurdle?

 

 

 

 

 

Stress and Vital Human Organs

Life is full of struggles and questions. Just as the planets travel oscillate around the sun in obedience to nature, so man, on each, make effort to make ends meet. Human beings strive not only to make the present day comfortable but strive to correct the past and even prepare for the future. In the face of these multiple struggles, circumstances have their own rules to play. And when they do not dance to the time table of man, Stress set in, and gradually impact on our vital Organs.

 

If Stress becomes part of everyone’s daily lives. Should one then give in to it? Stress can affect your body in ways that can have a long-lasting impact on your precious health. Here are some ways stress can affect your health through the vital body organs:

 

• The Effect of Stress on the Brain – Stress can cause you to lose your concentration and memory abilities. When you are under stress, the brain associated with memory, do not work well. Hence, you cannot turn short-term memory into long-term memory. All effort to concentrate on things you hear, see, read or even perceive will fail.

 

• Effect of Stress on the Cardiovascular System – Stress causes the secretion of Adrenalin, which automatically raises your blood pressure and heart rate. This chemical process put more stress on your heart, thereby putting you at higher risk of suffering from hypertension-related diseases like heart failure and stroke. These do not just happen overnight but result from long-term or chronic stress. The possibility of this life-threatening illness is high if you do not eat well (poor dieting) or even have a strong family history of heart disease. This is one good reason everyone needs to visit the doctor, not only when you are ill. You may get a life-saving advice.

 

• Effect of Stress on the Gastrointestinal Tract – Stress triggers the body’s fight or flight in response to the release of Adrenalin from your adrenal glands. This has multiple effects on the body. This event forces blood away from the gastrointestinal tract and toward the muscles of the body as a way of preparing to “flee or fight” from a real or imagined opponent (fear). This can lead to a decreased blood flow to the gastrointestinal tract, which translates into indigestion and poor uptake of nutrients

 

• Effect of Stress on the Immune System – Excess Stress also causes the release of cortisol (steroid hormone which regulates the immune response metabolism) from the adrenal cortex. Cortisol has many effects on the body but one of the main ones is that it suppresses the immune system. High levels of cortisol mean that you are at greater risk of getting colds and the flu and have a harder time healing from open cuts or wounds. Cortisol can suppress several aspects of the immune system. Hence, you fall ill more often when under stress than you would be if you were not under Stress.

 

Things You Can Do To Reduce Stress

Due to the fact that stress can wreak havoc on your body, you need to do what you can to lessen the Stress in your life so you can remain healthy. Sometimes, it may be a matter of modifying your lifestyle so as to reduce to the minimum level the major sources of Stress such as;

• getting out of a Stressful relationship,
• befriending people that make you happy
• add meaning to your personality
• avoiding actions that can cause you expensive mistakes, thereby causing regret
• getting your finances in order
• changing your job situation so you don’t go to work each day with stressful feelings.
• living in a healthy environment devoid of sights & sound that put Stress of you

 

However, if you can’t change your circumstances, you may want to practice stress-relieving techniques such as meditation and exercise among others.

These techniques can be effortlessly learned through attending health classes or watching films/videos that will teach you ways to reduce the total sum of Stress in your life.

 

Finally, I discover one other great way to reduce stress is to take a vacation away from that regular place that generates your Stress and spend enough time in nature that naturally calms the mind, body, and spirit.

 

 

 

 

Stop your Anger

Anger is a strong emotion that is caused by loss of self-control. Although anger is normal due to today’s fast-paced life, anger can lead to other emotions such as bitterness, vengeance or hate and might cause health problems such as high blood pressure, heart attack or depression. Some might counter anger through food or alcohol. Whenever you feel any negative feeling rising within yourself, use these simple techniques:

 

1. Take a walk and do some light exercise. -Stretch out; take a deep breath to let your brain get enough oxygen to analyze the matter. Ensure you repeat this to clear your mind before taking any action.
2. However, it might be necessary to get away from aggravator until your anger subsides and then only you try to handle your situation.
3. Anger can be caused by frustrations. To express your frustrations, being angry will only worsen the situations. Be calm, clear your mind and express your frustration as assertive as possible without being confrontational and controlling.
4. Do some exercise; it is a good way to release your steam if you feel that you have a lot of pent up anger inside yourself. Physical activity is able to stimulate your brain and body to release endorphins and make you feel happier and relax.
5. Hold fast to your values. Think of your personality and what you strive to be. Do you want to be someone who uses anger to get what you want? There is goodness inside everyone and it is just waiting to be unleashed. Make good use it!
6. Think before you speak. This is to avoid making the situation worst and allowed a few moments to collect your thoughts before bringing up any points.
7. Search for solutions instead of blaming others. Sometimes littlest things could make you angry but it is possible to resolve it instead of focusing on it.
8. Forgive the person in the wrong. Do not allow anger to control you until you hold a grudge against that person. Being able to forgive someone will bring out positive feelings within you and make you feel better.
9. Laughter is the best medicine. Try to ease the tension through laughter. It can help both sides to view things in a better light.
10. Try to relax. Practice relaxation techniques such as meditation or yoga to help calm your mind and diffuse your anger
11. Understand your opponent. Try to look from your opponent’s point of view. Anger can blind you from absurd and funny reasons of why you are angry with someone.
12. Say your prayers and be grateful. Instead of being angry, try to look for things that make you feel lucky for being alive. It might be your good health, your work or just seeing a sun shining brightly above you.
13. Write down the reasons for your anger. Once you write it down in details, review it once more. You might find that the reasons seem very important at first but once on paper, you will feel that the reasons are insignificant. Throw or burn the paper to shift all your anger.

 

Do’s and Don’ts: The Best Way to Manage Anger

Anger is experienced by everybody. However, different people handle anger differently. Anger can be an indicator that there is something wrong and things needed to be changed. It can be a good self-motivator if managed in healthy ways. However, anger can also cause health and relationship problems. Several people do not know how to deal with anger as it is a powerful and potentially destructive feeling.

With proper examination and management technique, anger can be used to influence your health, relationships and overall happiness in a positive way.

It is very importance to understand the root cause of your anger. It could be due to stress, insomnia, food deprivation and others that make people generally irritable. However, try to identify the specific reason for your anger. This can be done by keeping an anger journal to record what reason for your anger for a few weeks. Then it is possible to discuss the issue with a good friend or see a Counselor to uncover any source of anger if the matters could not be solved by you. Once you are more aware of the cause of your anger, steps can be taken to deal with it.

 

After understanding your anger, it is important to express your anger in a constructive way. Research has shown that writing about your anger and expressing it in a constructive way helps in reducing the negative mood and pain associated. By writing it down the feelings that have been bothering you and working through them on paper, you are actively doing something with your anger instead of letting the anger aggravate inside you and making you feel terrible.

 

It is not good to preoccupy your mind with anger as it is one of the biggest don’t in dealing with anger. Research has shown that people who tend to preoccupy your mind with anger tend to experience high blood pressure resulting in greater risk of organ damage and associated health challenges.

 

It is also important to remember that over-discussing anger could backfire. By discussing anger with a trusted friend can help to plan an effective strategy in countering it. However, by repeatedly talking about the topics that angered you with your friends can make both felt worst and increased stress hormones in the blood. People tend to complain especially women who tend to occupy their minds with complaining which turn into a decline of negative emotions. So it is better to change the topic before it gets that far.

However, if you wanted to talk more about what makes you angry, it is better to seek professional help as a therapist has more helpful ideas on dealing with anger.

 

Why should you Control your Anger

These are reasons to keep you from blowing your head up.

• Anger can cause irrational actions which will be reflected badly on your personality
• Most times, unwise words are spoken during in anger. Control your emotions and think before speaking in a hurry. These words, once spoken are not retractable.
• Anger will only hurt the person who is angry. The person on the wrong side, most time escape unharmed.
• Anger will lead to shame.
• The end result caused by anger can be more destructive than the reasons of anger.
• Being angry is just falling into a trap that someone sets up so that they can conquer you.
• If you are angry at someone’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own faults as well. It might not be the other person’s fault.
• Getting angry over a minor setback might cause your dignity